Dear Silent One: Difficult Conversations, How to have them and Why This Could Save Your Life
Relationships of all kinds require a good level of human interaction. This inevitable fact of life means that where there are great memories from meaningful interaction, there is an equal part possibility of having a misunderstanding.
Communication that is clear and honest is very important if we are to have healthy relationships and I understand you might find it difficult to communicate how you feel for whatever reason but being avoidant does not solve the issues either.
Today I pray you find the courage you need
to tell yourself,
"I am not too tired or weak to have the difficult
but very important conversations that need to be had"
I can tell you first hand how much damage avoidant behaviour to situations and people that upset you, can do to your mind and all round productivity.
Keeping quiet in uncomfortable situations because you don't want to be seen as a trouble maker is a high form of self betrayal. If you ignore the obvious long enough, you will find yourself losing power over your thoughts and emotions.
So here's how you can win at this avoidant menace daily:
- Speak up - Even if your heart is beating out of your chest it will not fall to the ground. I promise you that.
- Find Out - Do your necessary background checks to be sure you are not assuming things and build a strong bases for that important conversation that needs to be had.
- Walk Away - One major reason why abuse and injustice thrives is that we try to manage the situation in silence at the expense of our own mental health and lives!
You are not the cure to people's trauma but you can take meaningful steps that help others know your stand and foster healing processes.
It's perfectly okay to set much needed boundaries without feeling the need to please others.
In the end, everyone will be better for it.