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A Word For The African Child.

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Yesterday, was the 16th of June, a day the African Union and its Member States observe #TheDayofTheAfrican Child (DAC) as a commemoration of the 16th June 1976 student uprising in Soweto, South Africa, where students who marched in protest against apartheid-inspired education, were brutally murdered. It made me ponder my experiences, growing up as a brown girl in a nation where imported cultures, Education, political systems and societal norms are constantly at loggerheads with the core cultures and values of Africa. I thought about the mixtures that have caused a deep set identity crisis in the heart of the average African Child. It's funny how we are conditioned by Western education, seek out occupations that tally with those expectations and feel unlucky or dumb when the desire to be who we really are, rejects the social conditions we are born into. Dear African child, you need not be depressed because your bones grew too thick for the norms. You don't have to be downcast b…

Broken Vessel/ Human Condition by Zerah #ArtTherapy

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1) Broken Vessel
I was a broken vase
Scattered all around like debris
Each piece piercing through the skins and feet of men
I tried to piece myself all up
But all I got was a parched up vase
At the mercy of being broken again.

I tried all I could to get me fixed up
But all I got was another pile of mess
Tired and tried
I proposed in my heart to seek help
But where do I go from here?

I found solace with the Oceans
The cadence of the vast sea
The sweet sound of the nightingale
Stirred a restless desire that engulfed me
It became my dwelling place.

A day came
My secret hideout became a shared territory
She- a total stranger
Looked at me and said
"Let me tell you my story...."


....I was a volcano
Ready to erupt at the slightest touch
All I touched turned soar
While all I ever wanted
Was to be heard and held
Why was it so difficult?

I drove on a pedal of anger
Swerved down the lane of hate
Till my destination became that of a lone ranger

Like you, the ocean became my companion, she said
Until I got saved by a G…

When Everything Feels Dark: Mental Health Awareness

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#AnonymousChronicles

When everything seems dark around me, I reach for the light  I don't know how but I try  To find a joke here and there, a person to smile at.
I can't say for sure that these things help my plight. I just know that at least for a little while, in those moments, I stop seeing myself so much
It's a slight relief to focus on other things, on other people.  It gets exhausting.  I don't know how much longer I can keep up with it to be fair.
But what I do know is, today. Today I called a friend who I often wondered why they dont call me. 
And I laughed at a joke on Instagram. It wasn't much but atleast, the burden wasn't on me for a few Minutes. 
It wasn't on me

Seven (7) signs of Emotional Abuse You Must Never Ignore: #YouAreNotCrazy

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"Emotionally abusive people are like brick walls, they try to keep you locked up in your own head, questioning your sanity. But know this, nobody has that power over you. "
-You Are Strong


Emotional/ phsychological abuse is often difficult to detect because it does not involve physical scars. Unlike Physical abuse that leaves visible wounds and bruises on the body, Emotional abuse affects the mind of a person so it is hardly seen. Most people who suffer from emotional abuse end up with anxiety disorders, depression, low/severely bruised self esteem and even post traumatic stress disorders (P.T.S.D). 
The effects of emotional abuse are as bad as any form of abuse and so they should not be taken lightly or brushed off. It often involves manipulation, gaslighting, aggressive outbursts and shaming. 
Emotional abuse is possible in any kind of family, romantic or work relationship and here are Seven signs of Emotional Abuse to look out for:
1. Dismissive/ passive aggressive behaviour t…

In The Presence Of The Pure: On Coping With Anxiety #Mental Health Awareness

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#AnonymousChronicles
As a person who has suffered with severe anxiety after years of watching my mother be physically and emotionally abused by my father, I have found over the years that for fear of being misunderstood or being given some unsolicited advice like, "you should let it go" or "you should try to calm down more and not take everything too personal", silence and solitude have really been my best companions. 
As a Creative person, the things I struggle with are constantly fighting to come out of me. I want people to know that I'm mostly always hurting and half the time I can't put a finger on what exactly is causing all the pain and panicking in the morning. 
Yet when people call my phone, I watch the phone ring and I do not answer.  Most conversations feel forced and superficial. It's like the more calls I pick up, the more people feel they are getting to know me. But really I'm just putting up a bearable version of myself for them. Truth is …

Dear Silent One: Difficult Conversations, How to have them and Why This Could Save Your Life

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Relationships of all kinds require a good level of human interaction. This inevitable fact of life means that where there are great memories from meaningful interaction, there is an equal part possibility of having a misunderstanding.  Communication that is clear and honest is very important if we are to have healthy relationships and I understand you might find it difficult to communicate how you feel for whatever reason but being avoidant does not solve the issues either.  So,  Today I pray you find the courage you need to tell yourself,
"I am not too tired or weak to have the difficult  but very important conversations that need to be had"
I can tell you first hand how much damage avoidant behaviour to situations and people that upset you, can do to your mind and all round productivity. Keeping quiet in uncomfortable situations because you don't want to be seen as a trouble maker is a high form of self betrayal. If you ignore the obvious long enough, you will find your…

On Rape Culture: I have Stories To Tell #GenerationEquality

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It's the international day to end violence against women and the UN Women's keen attention to #EndRapeCulture is needful in my opinion.
On this one, I have a lot of stories to tell. Of mute women teaching their hearts to love and adapt to a world of 'roaming beasts' among people.  Bottled up anxiety when she meets someone new, "what if he is lying when he says he cares about me?", "maybe he has another agenda up his sleeves. Why does he want me?", "Must be like the last one", I always get myself into this mess, better stay on my own before I get more things to bawl about for hours, close to death only to be silent about because being raped by someone I care about is my fault'.
"I should not have been there in the first place", her recurring retort. It's a never ending stream of bitter thoughts for women who have faced abuse and UN reports have shown that 3 out of every 4 women abused were hurt by someone they love. As coined …